We’re back!! If you can believe it, it's been an entire year since I closed the boutique. There are a few things I miss about it… and so many things that I don’t. So much has happened in that time, so in this episode, I’m just going to catch you up on where I am today.
Because I love stretching my creative muscles, I’ve started several new ventures (a flower business, a coaching business, and I’m writing a book!) But more than anything, this last year has been defined by all the things I’ve learned about myself, from getting a handle on my anxiety to understanding why I want a different kind of life for myself and my family.
I’m just not here for the hustle anymore. I’m ready to spend time with my family, take care of myself for once (thank you, therapy), learn how to love fashion again, and share my wisdom and all the lessons I’ve learned in the last decade, so you can do the same.
I’m so glad you’re here and I’m so thankful for those of you who've stuck with me through this transition. I can’t wait to grow right along with you in this next phase of life!
In this episode, you’ll learn...
- [02:16] My feelings on closing the boutique a year later and how I’ve learned not to stay in things that no longer serve me
- [08:16] How my idea of success has transformed in the last few years
- [09:39] Why I don’t miss the boutique (even if I do miss the community)
- [15:51] How I’ve been able to set boundaries that protect my mental health since closing the boutique
- [19:50] How I’ve moved away from “hustle mode” in the last few years
- [22:30] The new ventures I’ve started this last year: a flower business, social media consulting, business coaching, AND I’m writing a book!
- [26:36] How I’ve been prioritizing my own well-being and creating new habits in my life (including therapy)
- [29:03] Why closing the boutique allowed me to fall in love with fashion again
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Transcript:
[00:00:07] Welcome to the More than Clothes podcast. I'm your host, Nicole J, a mama wife and entrepreneur who makes the most out of the hours in between morning school drop off and afternoon pickup. After ten years of building a successful clothing boutique, I decided to close the doors. When I realized that the fast fashion world just did not align with the slow and simple life that I had been craving. You're in the right place if you're looking for real life advice or proven steps to building your business. I'll be going behind the scenes of my life as a working mom, surviving in the chaos and choosing to start over. And details of how I built a multimillion dollar business by the time I was 30 years old. We're sharing some of the mistakes I made. I'm hoping to help you avoid them. And by telling you about some of the hard lessons I've learned, I'm hoping to inspire you to finally let go of other people's expectations and start prioritizing your happiness. Thank you guys, so much for being here. Let's get to it.
[00:01:13] Okay, so it's been a while. Oh, here we go. Oh, my goodness. I'm not going to lie. I'm a little nervous. I haven't sat down to record a podcast episode in way too long, and I just feel like there's so much to catch up on. So we're diving right in. You guys, welcome back to the More than Close podcast. I am so excited to be recording. It has been a wild year and last few months since I've recorded Last, So much has happened. There's so much to catch up on and I am just so ready to share more of my story and give more advice and connect with you all in this space. And the time is right. Like I knew I needed to pause this for a second until I felt ready to share more and ready to record and and feel like I just had more to give. So I'm ready. The time is right. We are back into podcast flow and I'm so frickin excited. So I hope you are too.
[00:02:16] Today we're just going to catch up. I get asked a lot if I miss the boutique, so we're going to talk about that. I'm going to share kind of what I've been up to, what's going on. So lessons that I've learned and all the things. So, you know, first of all, I can't believe I truly can't believe that it's been one whole year since I've closed the doors to the boutique, like one whole year since I made this huge decision, since I locked the door for the last time and just walked away like. One whole year. First of all, time flies. Second of all, that feels like yesterday, but at the same time, feels like ten years ago. You know, it's interesting because I look at, like, pictures and videos and stuff of me. A year ago, a year and a half ago, two years ago. And I feel sad for that person because I can see like what nobody else could see. And that was the uncertainty. And just like. The sadness behind my smile in my eyes. And not that I was sad by what I was doing. Like, I just I, I've, I've had this feeling that I was meant for more for a long time. And now, more than ever, I can look back and just see that in my face. And especially on videos like hearing myself talk and everything. I'm like, Gosh, I was checked out for a long time. I was just really trying to force myself into staying.
[00:04:00] And to be fully honest with you, it's not the first time in my life that I've tried talking myself into staying into something, staying in something that no longer served me or the life that I was wanting to live or the way I wanted to feel. And a lot of you have been on this journey with me for a long time, so you know that I have been a single mom. I went through an awful divorce and I left the toxic marriage and relationship, and that was starting over at, you know, 20 I think I was 23, 24 years old with two babies. And I was a baby building a business. And that was a really hard and scary decision. And I for a while was trying to talk myself into staying, but realizing that it was okay to let go and move on. And it was kind of the same decision with this boutique. And, you know, I am happily remarried and I love my husband and our children and our life so, so much. But with this decision, it was kind of similar to that past life of like, why am I convincing myself to stay in something that no longer feels right for me? There's a lot that went into that decision and it's really hard to talk about. And I still get kind of emotional with it, and I'm doing a lot of writing right now. I shared after I closed the boutique that I'm writing a book and I am still writing that book. It is still very much happening. I have been working hard with just I took the pressure off of myself of feeling like I had to get the book done now, and I am just kind of writing as I feel inspired to write and as stories sort of pop into my head. I sit and I write them down and I'm just trying to enjoy the process of reflecting and understanding that I'm still learning so many lessons that I want to share in the book and that there's no rush to it. And I know right now it's not a rush and that I don't need to get this book out just this second. Like I because I just feel it in my gut, in my soul that, you know, take the pressure off of yourself, just enjoy writing and that it's all going to come together. So the book is still very much happening. I have a lot to share with that and updates and and things, but I am very much in a season of still learning and growing and my gut is just really telling me like, keep writing, just keep writing, keep reflecting, keep sharing. And there's a lot to this decision of closing the boutique that will be shared in the book and in the months and years to come, because social media is truly just a highlight reel and I get to choose what I want to share. And I mean, I'm always real and honest with you guys. But of course, there's just always more to the story and there is very much more to my story that when I'm ready to share, I absolutely will. But releasing that pressure has been something that I've really tried to give myself space with. And I had put so much pressure on myself with building this business. And really for a long time it was all I knew.
[00:07:08] You know, my name has been attached to fashion for so long, and I started building my name around fashion back in high school when I was designing my homecoming dresses and my prom dresses. And then when I left Delaware to go to New York City and study fashion design, you know, my my whole world has been about clothes and fashion for a really long time. And in the book, I share a story and I'll probably maybe I recorded episode on that of just the moment I realized that, like, I hate clothes, like I don't love clothes as much as everybody thinks I do. And I wanted to be known for something more than just clothes. And that's why we renamed this podcast. And that's what this is all about for me is like, I am not just fashion, I am so much more than that. I'm so much more than clothes. And then the business that I work so hard to create and I am so proud of myself for building what I have and doing what I've done, but also being able to recognize and be aware of my own sort of feelings and knowing and trusting myself enough to not say stuck in something that no longer serves me.
[00:08:16] And truly what happened with the boutique was I started focusing on how I want to feel and sort of redefining what success looks like for me. And it hit me knowing that success wasn't about how my life looked, but more about how my life felt. And I had been craving for a really long time, especially coming out of the pandemic and back, You know, we kind of were forced to slow down and then forced to speed back up. And it was really hard for me to speed back up because I realized during the pandemic that I was craving simplicity in my life. I was craving peace and and calmness over the chaos, you know, and my life for the last ten years. And since having Ellie and becoming a single mom to her and Jason, all of that, my life has been so fast paced and so hustle, hustle, Hustle that I hadn't really allowed myself time to just slow down and be a mom and figure out what else I was good at and you know, what other things I was interested in and in other opportunities for myself. So it's been kind of a wild ride. Like, I still can't believe I stepped away from it. And when I actually sit down and think about it, I'm like, Whoa, what is happening? You know, like, I could have never imagined that the boutique would not be in my life. And and people ask me all the time, Do you miss it? Do you miss the boutique? And the honest, truthful answer is, no, I don't. I miss the community. I miss seeing you guys. I miss catching up with our counter talks and hanging out and doing the events and seeing people. I miss that so much. I do. But I also feel grateful that I could stay connected to you through social media. And I'm local to the boutique. I live less than a mile away from the boutique, you guys, so I'm still very much in the community and I see past customers at the baseball fields and in the grocery stores and at different events that are happening in our community. So I love that I can still stay in touch with you all and feel connected in that way. So, yes, I do miss seeing you. I miss the relationships that I was building and all of that inside of the boutique. But the business side of things, I do not miss the overhead. Oh, the amount of money that was going in to rent and bills and utilities and inventory and payroll and oh my gosh, I do not miss that. I do not miss the schedule. The seven days a week, the hustle, hustle, hustle, the constant, you know, coming up with new ideas and all. I just I don't miss the business side of things. I have recognized how to how long I was actually checked out and feeling disconnected from the boutique now that I'm free of it. But, you know, I am proud of everything that I've done. And it is such a huge part of my story and my journey and will forever be. And I'm so thankful for all the support that I received during those years and during this time. Still, and I know you all understand where my heart is and where it was when I made that decision. And it means so much to me. But I feel free, I feel lighter. I feel like I just have more space to create and be myself. And, you know, I feel like I'm being called to this greater purpose. And I don't know exactly what it is yet. And I think a lot of it has to do with the book and that the timing of it is like, this is all setting me up for something else. And it's a really weird and hard thing to explain, but I'm trying to just enjoy every step and be open and aware of things that are happening around me and feelings that I feel and emotions that come up. Like I'm just really in this place of true presence and awareness and allowing myself and giving myself that permission to just kind of be, you know, I've never really had that.
[00:12:12] And it feels really good. It feels so good to have more time with my family and to just be mom and to, you know, have family dinners and not miss practices or games and and be able to take the kids to school and pick them up. It's such a simple thing. But I love being able to do that. I love being the one that is with them in the morning and preparing their breakfast and their lunches and chatting with them on the way to school and picking them up from school and being the first to ask about their day like that means more to me than I ever thought it would. And I know I can't get that time back, You know, I can't get this time back. And they're growing so fast. It's crazy. Shane, 13, is going into high school next year. Ellie is 11 and growing like a weed. Like, I can't even describe how beautiful this girl is. She has such a sweet, kind soul and she's getting so tall and so big and beautiful so fast. She's going into middle school next year. And then Jace is, Oh my God. Jace is like one of a kind. He keeps us laughing and he's eight and they're just getting so big. And I can feel this time just sort of slipping through my fingers and wanting to hold on to it as much as I can. And I know I can't get this time with them back. Right. Like James stepping into all these teenage years of being too cool for us and not wanting to hang out with us as much, you know? And it's like, I just want to soak up all of this time as much as I possibly can, because I know in a blink of an eye it's going to be gone and I'm going to be wishing that I could have slowed down and been have been more present. And now I don't have to have that. What if what if, what if and feel any regret in that area, you know, when when they're growing up and don't want to hang out with us as much. But I just it feels so good to be able to just be mom in those moments and and be connected to that family time.
[00:14:00] But you know what's been interesting for me? Two things. First thing is discovering how much of an introvert that I actually am. And I'm going to do an entirely different episode about this discovery and how I've sort of handled it. But I enjoy being home. I enjoy being by myself. I have no problem not seeing or speaking to people for a couple of days at a time. Like outside of my circle. You know, I have truly recognized that a lot of my anxiety has been triggered by not respecting my own personal boundary with this. And, you know, if you work in customer service or deal with people on a daily basis, with which most of us do, you know, within our careers, it's a hard thing to explain, but it's it's mentally, emotionally, physically draining, Like it drains your energy to talk to people all day long. And it's not a bad thing, right? Like, I mean, I love my customers. I love the girls I had on staff, and talking with them wasn't a bad thing. And by saying it emotionally, physically, mentally drained me. It wasn't a bad thing. It just it does. Like you're exhausted after a long day of talking with people and having meetings and handling situations, you know? And I had done that for so many years that I didn't realize that my personal boundary was more of like I needed to give myself some time just alone, just quiet time, you know, whether it was an hour a day, 2 hours a day, or one or two days a week, like my schedule needed that. And I wasn't respecting that personal boundary of mine because I honestly didn't even realize that it was a personal boundary of mine.
[00:15:51] So coming off of so many years of customer service and being with people so much, and now that I've flipped that and have a lot more time to myself. I just see that a lot of that anxiety was triggered from that. And it's funny. It's not funny, but I can remember having my first panic attack in the boutique, and this was many years ago in our first location. So we had two separate locations that I had the first space for about four years. It was a smaller space. We outgrew it and then we opened up the second location and then eventually had a warehouse and blah, blah, blah, but in the first location. So for those of you who don't know. So I had Lee. I was married to her dad, I had Lee, and then I was leaving that relationship. I had filed for divorce. I was, you know, making that decision. And then I found out I was pregnant with Jase. So instead of staying in that relationship, I decided to just move forward and just go through the pregnancy on my own and just become a single mama to do the whole, whole journey. But I had Jace by myself, you know, It was just the three of us. It was me, Ellie and Jace. And I had the first location at that time, and I can remember my first day back in the store after I had Jace and we had an events in the boutique. And for those of you who ever came to the events at this at the shop, you know, they were a big deal. They were always crowded. And it was, it was always a lot of fun and a lot of people, right. So I'm sure I had some postpartum depression going on, a lot of mental stuff that I just like, you know, was just trying to survive at this point of my life. And I can remember being in the boutique, a ton of people coming in and my heart just starts racing and I feel like I'm having a panic, a heart attack. And what happens is I'm going into a panic attack. My anxiety is through the roof. I have to go outside and take some fresh air and I'm in the back of the parking lot, hiding behind the dumpster, hysterically crying like totally in a panic attack. And that was kind of the first time that I started recognizing like, okay, you know, a lot of people all at once sort of just freaks me out. All right. And then over the next few years, it just kind of kept happening. And when we would have Style Saturdays and things in the boutique, my staff and anybody who was working with me that day knew that, like, okay, if I gave the look, I was stepping out for a minute because I just got overwhelmed easily and my anxiety kicked in when there was just a ton of people kind of crammed into the space. And not that it was bad. Like, again, so grateful. I love you all. It was just this personal thing that I was struggling with, and when that would happen, I would go to the back room for a minute. I would go to the bathroom, I would turn the lights off and I would just sit in the back in this quiet, dark bathroom. I would cry, I would breathe. I would do whatever I needed to do to calm myself down, talk myself out of this, and just like move on with the event throughout the day.
[00:18:55] And it's crazy to think about now because I knew what was happening. But now I can see it so clearly that I've had time to just slow down and not be around people so much. It's like, Oh my gosh, my social anxiety was so real, you know, I handled it well and I'm proud of myself, but I really struggled and I didn't understand it. And there were some days in the store where I just would break down. I would just totally break down. And I was just like drained in a way that was really hard to describe. And, you know, I feel so much relief in that area. I still battle with anxiety of different scenarios and things, but I feel so much relief and knowing that I don't have to work in that way anymore. And then I can choose sort of how I surround myself with people who I'm surrounding myself with when and, and really just try to respect that personal boundary of mine. I also.
[00:19:50] The second thing really is I didn't realize how much of a hustle mode that I was in all the time. And it's been really interesting trying to unlearn hustle when I try to explain this in the best way that I can. But, you know, when you're running a business and when the business grows to the capacity that mine had. It's just like, Go, go, go, go, go. Goals, goals, goals, goals, goals. Like what's next? What's next? We have to keep building. We have to keep cash flow coming in. We have to keep paying bills. We have to keep overhead. We have to stay afloat. We have to get payroll. Like it's just go, go, go, go, go. And when the pandemic hit and I became a one woman show, it just kind of forced me to slow down again. And I enjoyed it. Like I said, you know, I had these moments of quiet. I had these moments by myself in all of this. And then as we started to open up again and ease back into having a team and all that stuff, like I just couldn't do it. Like it was really a struggle for me to get back to the way that life was before. And I started to recognize because it was because I, I didn't want to be in hustle mode anymore. And right now in my life, I don't want to be in hustle mode anymore. Now I recognize that there are certain times and seasons and with specific projects and things that I do have to turn hustle mode on. And I'm going to do an episode about that with just like how to turn hustle mode on and off, because that's I'm kind of learning that as we go.
[00:21:25] But with this new schedule that I have, I find myself having to do like a quick little reality check. Like, okay, Nick, you're putting too much on your schedule. Again, this is not the mental space or what we have mental capacity for this week. You know, we don't need the hustle, hustle, hustle every day. It is okay to have gaps in your schedule with nothing going on or it is okay to only work a half day or whatever it may be like. Learning this new schedule has been really interesting and a lot more difficult than I expected it to be, honestly. And you'll probably hear me talk more about that here because I'm still very much in that learning phase of unlearning hustle mode. But it's been interesting and it's been surprisingly more difficult than I thought because I think I've just trained myself this sort of unhealthy habit, and I didn't realize it until I got out of it. So it's been interesting trying to to form this new lifestyle of not being so busy. It's been interesting,.
[00:22:30] But some of the things that I've sort of been up to this last year, I am trying new things, guys like it's funny because this season for me was all about sort of slowing down and I read that some of you following me are like, Nicole, this is your version of slowing down. Like, this is not slowing down. You've done a thousand different things since you close the boutique. And while that's true, yes, it is also my version of slowing down because I have only leaned into things that feel exciting to me, that feel happy or bring me joy or bring others joy. You know, they've been kind of random, but they're just things that have been on my mind for a while and I just haven't had time to explore them. Right? So last year it was like it was maybe like early summer. I was like, okay, I want to have a flower business. So I started putting together bouquets and doing some book deliveries, and we have a flower bar side little business that we're renting out the flower bar for events and showers and guest favors and different things. And I'm letting that be fun for me. I am a creative entrepreneur. I love to paint, I love art, I love color and I love design. And I just I was really missing that in my life. And I am the type of person who doesn't have a lot of hobbies. I've got a lot of ideas for hobbies, but actually setting a time, setting time aside to do those hobbies is like, No, how can I turn it into a business? You know, it's a blessing and a curse, but that's just how my brain works. So, you know, I like I love flowers. Flowers make me happy. Flowers make other people happy. I know that my community would love this. And how can I turn this into something that would be fun for me? So, you know, random flower business.
[00:24:10] I'm writing the book, which has been a really incredible healing journey. It's also brought up some things for me that I've had to work through, which was something that I wasn't expecting. You know, I have had some dramatic situations in my life that I am going through as I reflect and write about them. So really leading into some self-care and some therapy and just making sure that I am just not ignoring certain things that I rush to get through that I thought I was healed from. It's been kind of an interesting thing, but also taking the pressure off myself of like, okay, the book doesn't have to come out right now. It can come out when I feel ready, and that's okay.
[00:24:51] I have been coaching business owners. That has been so much fun. I pretty much started that immediately after closing the boutique. I've had several different clients of different types of businesses over the last year and this is something that lights me up. I am so passionate about helping other business owners, about helping women just sort of thrive with their ideas and find clarity and save time and save money and. It has been. Oh, my gosh, I love this so much. I started The Friendly Entrepreneur, which is a community, a space for business owners and entrepreneurs to learn, to grow, to connect. I truly can't wait to see where this goes. It's been an idea that I've had for quite some time. It was just more of like making sure I could commit to it in a way that I felt good about. And right now is that time I am doing some social media management work for business owners. I work one on one with clients and helping them grow and connect with their audiences on social media to reach their business goals. I'm doing some graphic design for them and some logo creations and stuff like that, which really fuels my creative sort of passion.
[00:26:05] So I'm just letting myself like, try new things and and have fun with it and see where it takes me and really trusting that my gut and my intuition when it just doesn't feel right and letting myself be okay with letting it go right. Like, I can't say that I'm going to be doing flowers forever, but right now it feels fun and exciting and it's a way to stay connected with my community, which is important to me. And so I'm allowing myself to do that and just sort of lean in and trust the situation and just have fun with it. You know? I've created a lot of new habits in my life. I have really been trying to take care of myself, and movement is a big one for me this year of just getting outside, getting fresh air and walking more and creating routines within our house that make our lives easier, you know, like not letting laundry get backed up and having to spend all day Sunday doing that. Like making laundry a part of my morning routine and just little subtle changes like that to create more ease in our lives and more ease in our house. Therapy has been a big one for me. Like I said, going through this book, Journey and just some personal things and learning situations that I've been a part of, and just really leaning in to asking for professional help in that way has been such a gift for my life. I found my therapist on Betterhelp and it has been truly incredible. And from personal experience, it's hard to find a therapist that you connect with. And what I love the most about and what I do love most about Betterhelp is that if you are matched with somebody that you're just not vibing with, they can rematch you and you can keep trying until you find somebody that you connect with. You know, finding a therapist is not an easy task, but at the same time, there are amazing professional therapists out there who can help and who can talk to you and consider it like interviewing, you know, interviewing to find the right fit. You're not stuck with a therapist if you're just not loving their vibe or if they're not giving you the right advice, find a new one. My therapist We speak virtually, so I am able to do it. It's kind of like a zoom call, so it's convenient for my schedule and I could fit it in when I need to or when she's available. And it's just been really wonderful. We also have like a texting sort of app through Betterhelp that I could chat with her when I need extra support and it's been wonderful. So anybody looking for just, you know, somebody to talk to, I highly recommend I have a I don't know what the you know what? It's a three week. I have a one free week like we'll I'll make sure we include that here if anybody is interested and please message me and ask me questions about it. I know it's kind of a personal thing, but, you know, I'm an open book when it comes to this stuff. I think that our mental health is so important and it should definitely be a priority and we need to make it a priority with ourselves and with our children. It's so important and everybody can definitely benefit from some good old fashioned therapy.
[00:29:03] So just creating new habits in my life and leaning into things that feel good. And you know, I love family dinners at our house, especially when all five of us are here and just making that a priority in our lives again, whether that means we're ordering out or I'm cooking, does it matter? Just having those conversations around our dinner table that's so important to me, something that's kind of come back up in my world. I mentioned in the beginning and I'll share this story again, but someday I'll share this story about how I just had my meltdown of hating clothes. You know, I think what's been interesting with me with for me with clothes is that. I started to really just hate fashion. I think there was a mixture of reasons why, but it started to feel like just work for me. And I was really lacking some self-confidence with my own body and within my own style and feeling like I had to dress a certain way and be put together all the time. And I just started to really hate getting dressed and hate thinking about outfits. It's a weird thing, and I'll probably talk more about this later on, but I was really just like, hating clothes, and lately I've been letting myself just have fun with fashion again and fall in love with it again and enjoy getting myself ready and feeling good and not, you know, doing hair and makeup every day. But if I'm having a low day and a little lipstick makes me feel better, like leaning into that, if shoes make me a new pair of shoes make me feel good leading into that. And I've had some fun lately sharing more outfit inspo on Instagram reels and sharing try on sessions again on the stories. This I don't want to get your hopes up. This does not mean that I'm going to be selling clothes anytime soon, but it's just a way for me to connect with clothes and fashion again and stay connected with you guys in that way.
[00:31:01] So thank you for for, you know, supporting me there. It's been fun to chat with you guys again about the way things fit and styling the outfits and, you know, style suggestions and stuff. So trying to just have fun with fashion and fall in love again with it because it has been such a huge part of my journey and I don't know how it stays a part of my story moving forward, but it will always be a part of my past. And I think when I closed the boutique, I felt like I was cutting it off completely. And I'm realizing now that I don't need to do that. It's just figuring out how to keep it in my life in a way that that feels good and doesn't feel like work necessarily, but feels fun and makes me feel good, you know? So yeah, you guys, it's been a wild year. I mean, I know there's so much more that I'm missing, but I just I'm happy. I'm truly happy and feels good to finally put myself first and to prioritize my happiness and to just be mom and to be free to try new things and give myself permission to explore new opportunities for myself and for our family. And, you know, we all have the power to start over. We all have the power to change things in our lives that just don't feel good anymore. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I know it takes a lot of strength and courage to make these big decisions, but from somebody who's had to do it over and over again, I can promise you it makes me want to cry. I can promise you that when you get on the other side. It's still scary. It's still scary, but. There's a whole new level, a whole new level of strength that you don't realize you have. And there's so much more that lies ahead for you. And when you can just believe in yourself. There's so much possibility for growth and for just things in your life. Be willing to invite things into your life that you just would have never expected. We've never expected to be closing the boutique. I really, truly wouldn't. And I don't know that. You know, I won't be without a boutique forever. Like maybe when the kids are older. That's something that comes back into my life. I'm not sure, but I'm open to it. I'm open to whatever is meant to be for me, and I'm just truly leading into what feels good and and trusting that it will all make sense eventually. And I can promise you that when you get on the other side of that big, scary, hard decision that you're making. You will feel good. It's. It's, you know. It's hard to explain, and I wish I could find better words to explain, but. It all comes together and it will all work out okay. And you'll be surprised by the way the universe starts to deliver things that you just would have never expected. I would have never expected to be a social media manager working one on one with other business owners and helping them build their dreams.
[00:34:10] But I also would have never expected how much joy that brings me and how much I absolutely love it and how good I am at it to be saying that I'm good at something else that I never would have thought I would have explored. It's such an odd feeling, but it feels good and I just want to build something and continue to build something that I'm proud of. And I could have never gotten to this this step or this phase or this chapter unless I made that that decision and that leap of faith and just really started to trust myself and listened to my intuition. So I encourage you guys to do that, to start trusting and believing in yourself. And you can do it. You can do it, whatever that hard decision you have to make or whatever that thing you've been thinking about, like just trust yourself, listen to your intuition and then just go for it. Take that first step, whether it's big or small. Just move towards that, that direction that you're you're really leaning towards. And it's going to be hard and scary. But it will work out. It will work itself out. I truly believe that. So today I'm going to sign off with a friendly reminder, a friendly reminder. Today, I want you to know that it is okay to start over. Just trust your gut and believe in yourself. You can do it. And thank you so much for listening. And I just can't tell you how excited I am to be back recording and in this space. So tune in. We'll have weekly episodes coming your way. I'll be sharing life advice, stories behind the scenes of business tips and tricks and lots of lots of things here. So come on back and I hope you enjoyed this episode. I'll talk to you soon. Hey, friend, real quick, I would love to stay connected through Instagram. You can follow me at more than Nicole J. When you get a chance, would you mind leaving a review? These reviews are so helpful for a podcast like mine. If you leave a review, send me a screenshot on Instagram when you do so I can personally Thank you. And one last thing your friendly reminder you get to choose what type of mood you want to be in. And today I hope you choose happy.